LoveLEE Expressions About Black Lives Matter

​Yes, there is a race war but it’s against the institutions that continue to oppress us. The majority of the black people posting that Black Lives Matter have never been to a ralley and have bo affiliation with the group. We just want all people to help us restructure our system so people don’t feel a need to protest it. We have published statics outlining the disparities for decades. The civil rights movement of the 60’s educated white people about our plight but you have been in contemplation about actually changing the ststem ever since. You sympathize with us but you don’t want really want equality I understand. I’m addicted to privileges when I’m privy to them too. It’s hard to change white privilege when it makes you feel good and comfortable. Well that same system has deteriorated us. We have experienced the same trauma that Micah Johnson inficted on Dallas for centuries. We used to get lynched. That feeling is so familar that it’s hard for us to sympathize with you right now. Maybe now you can empathize with the way I feel when my husband, sons, brothers and cousins leave our homes. I imagine that’s what made Johnson snap, waiting on everybody to stop contemplating about changes. It’s unfortunate that he had to go to these extremes to get your attention. I don’t condone what he did by far. I am so disappointed that it takes a black man saying he wanted to kill white people and acting on the impulse to make you ask what’s going on. The financial, educational, judicial, health care, welfare, child welfare and every other system in this nation is corrupt and works against us people. The executive and legislative bodies are not effective at the national, state, county, or maniciple level. They may work well for the privileged but not for us. Look at the Flint water crises! What values did the people who made that happen have? Why were they comfortable to look away and not stick their necks out for the sake of himanity? People say cops kill white people too. Yes, they do but it’s not usually for a traffic stop. It’s for heinous acts like Johnson committed, robbery, or terrorism. I’ll have to look up the statistics to see if white people who commit mass crimes are more likely to be apprehended or kill themselves compared to the ones who the cops actually kill. If white men are being killed for traffic violations and child support, we should be outraged at that too. Why wouldn’t we? Why wouldn’t you? Please understand, our outrage is not just about the disproportionate number of black men killed by police. It’s the institutional racism that manifests in our daily lives. It’s disproportionate charges, sentencings, educational opportunities, graduation rates, suspension rates, predatory lending, redling property, health care issues and everything else. We yell black lives matter because it seems people ignore our plight despite staistics and reports. My parents dealt with these same issues, my grandparents endured it and the generations before thaem had it even worst. My white friends say I want to help but I don’t know how. Well, assess yourself first. What were you told about black people when you were growing up? What did your parents, grandparents and classmates tell you. Did they encourage you to interact with us or did they warn you to be careful around us? What are you telling your children about us? Are you challenging your spouses, grandparents and friends when they stereotype me? I don’t want to be the exception to the stereotype. I want to feel confident that the stereotype is the exception. I was horrified at a professional training when several of my peers shared their parents told their daughters to marry anyone but a black man. Why are white people still locking car doors or crossing streets when black folks walk by? All of those things compiled on top of being mistaken for a welfare recipient, prostitute or drug dealer/addict is compounded on top of all of these black men being murdered for seemingly stupid reasons and power struggles. I want change! We want change. We thought we’d get it when a black man was elected president but it seems like the last eight years has taken us back 80 in terms of race relations.

Tensions are high and there is so much misunderstanding. We need to talk open and honest about this situation before this institutional war becomes a civil war.

Humor me. What are your thoughts? Hopefully I haven’t lost any friends over this post because I know Black Lives Matter.

Posted by DaLoveLee1

I recently realized I have a passion for natural hair during on my journey toward self-acceptance and love. So much of who I am has always revolves around my hair. It reflects how I feel about myself internally. When I am depressed or stressed, I don't do my hair. If I do look like a million bucks, I feel like a million bucks, even if I'm flat broke. I started documenting my transition on Facebook and it spread to Instagram. I have been amazed at how I have come to love my kinks and curls. I didn't even know how to care for it when a started transitioning. It has been so liberating. I assumed the name LoveLEE around the same time as my transition because I needed to remind myself that I'm worthy of love. The image of women like me is skewed by the media and negative stereotypes. I refuse to confine since of love and beauty to society's standards. I'm starting this blog so other women will know that they don't have to be boxed in either. You are beautiful and flawless just the way you are.

Thanks for joining me.

4 thoughts on “LoveLEE Expressions About Black Lives Matter”

  1. Well said. I wish more people would understand what it truly means to say Black Lives Matter. I wish everyone understood what it is we go through on a daily basis. They want our culture, our sass, our swag, our slang, but they don’t want to help our issues. That’s a huge problem.We fight for equality and we’re called complainers. We become outraged, and they wished we just shut up and take it on the back like we’ve always did. Now people are starting to wake up.

    Black Lives Matter. I’ve always said it, I will always say it.

  2. Thank you for sharing. My two cents (while I don’t live in the USA) seems that it is easy to misunderstand the black live issue from the outside, unless you are somehow involved with black culture. Black issues are completely different to latino, asian, white or immigrant issues; I learnt this partially when I started reading hair blogs. At first I felt unwelcomed on many black hair care blogs so I turned to more mainstream media because black blogs made me feel uncomfortable (with me being latina, lighter skin and of course not from the USA), but little by little reading the old history of how black people in the hair case women where treated in the past made me realize how unique the struggles of black women in the USA were and I was able understand that even if I loved identifying as black I am not, I am a latino with black roots among others and issues are not the same. Yes black hair care magazines are not for me, but I can find something for me in mainstream media while the black women have been more systematically erased from the mainstream media outlets. I just commented on how I changed as I got closer at least in paper to the issue. Now I can read black hair care mags and not be affected by the remarks against white, latino or mix women because in a way I can see it is part of the struggle to self acceptance, but still isolationists approaches the only thing that they manage is to alienate most people who do not belong to the group. I do not know much of the current situation first hand but I feel very sorry about this terrible situation the US lives and agree with in that it is indeed a dangerous time to be a black man in America and that black lives matter too and non blacks are missing the point of the message.

    1. Wow. Thank you for commenting. Your statements resonate powerfully with me. I am afraid the expression our pain caues more isolation. In many ways, we are taking on the traits of those who hurt us. I am sorry that your experience was negative in the beginning but I thank you for taking the time to learn why the anger exists. I felt self-conscious publishing this post because I wasn’t sure how I would come off. You’ve opened my eyes to some things I hadn’t considered so I’m really glad I did. I have to think about how I can use it to impact this situation. People laugh at my natural hair addiction, but hair is a gateway to everything. This journey has introduced me to some amazing people and you’re one of them. Much love and light to you, sistah Queen. 😘

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