My hair regimen

It has literally taken five years for me to figure out how to make my curls pop and retain moisture. The hardest part is figuring out what products my hair likes and what it doesn’t. First, I tried to figure out my hair type. I’m a 4b,  4c but what does that mean? It wasn’t helpful.


Next I read about the LOC method. Liquid, oil, and creamy usually left me with creamy flakes. My hair doesn’t like to be styled with creams. I can moisturize my hair with it after it’s  styled or use it for twists, but that’s it.

The Dickey Method was the next technique I tried. It required putting your conditioner and stylers in while your hair is sopping wet. This was helpful but my hair dried super fast. I started doing twist outs, puffs and afros. Dryness was always an issue. image

I was frustrated and didn’t understand why my curls were so gorgeous wet and turned into a bush when it dried. I have sisters whose curls popped. I was determined so I started my research. I noticed my tresses were getting damaged from the color I put in it and I wanted to save it. I bought moisturizers, conditioners, and oils but the damage continued.

Finally, a co-worker told me about something called the Curly Girl Method. I came across a Curly Girl Method challenge on the fabulous Ty Crable’s YouTube challenge and downloaded the book on my kindle. It changed my life. Everything started clicking. I started trying out gels. I never used them because I didn’t like the way it made my hair hard. I didn’t like that.


I started hearing about hair porosity. I learned that I have low porosity hair. That means it’s hard moisture to even get into my hair follicles. A lot of products just sit on my hair. It would take three days for it to become properly hydrated. Once that moisture seeps in, it’s stays a while.

I took all of this knowledge and created this routine:

1. Pre-poo – Yes, I do. This just prepares my delicate tresses for the excessive manipulation involved in cleaning the hair. Some people use coconut oil to pre-poo, but that didn’t do anything for me. I use conditioner, Tresemmé Botanique is my favorite right now. I just wet my hair with warm water and apply the conditioner. I use my fingers or paddle brush to de-tangle my hair. I cover my head with a plastic cap for 10 minutes.

2. Co-wash – I rarely use shampoo because it strips my hair of moisture. I wash my hair with a cheap conditioner or an actual co-wash. I’m more concerned with the actual conditioning. The brands I use are Eden’s Body Works, Shea Moisture Professional, and the Tresemmé conditioner I used to pre-poo.


3. Hot oil treatment – I combine about 1-2 teaspoons of grape seed oil, sweet almond oil, macadamia nut oil, and jojoba in a small container and hear it up in the microwave. Test it before you stick your hands in it so that it’s not too warm. I section my hair and put a generous amount of my concoction on it. I sit under the dry 10-15 minutes.

4. Deep condition – I do this often. I use a lot masques. Some of the ones on my stash are Shea Moisture JBCO and Raw Shea. I like to mix those together with oils (usually olive and coconut) and sometimes an egg, some honey, and/or mayonnaise. Yes, I’m serious. I don’t really like the mayo though. I also use other masques from Eden Body Works, DevaCurl, and Pure Oils by Silk Elements. I make sure I cover each stand of hair from the ends to the roots. Then I de-tangle with my fingers or paddle brush. When my hair was long, I’d loosely  twist sections after I applied the conditioner. I either use a deep conditioning bonnet (It looks like silver foil. My husband calls me a baked potato when I wear it.) for about 45 minutes or a plastic cap under the dryer for about 20 minutes. I rinse it out.


5. Leave-In conditioner – I use a lot of conditioner. I apply apply my leave-in in the shower while my hair is soaking wet. I give it 5 minutes to soak in. I try to use a leave-in from the same brand of styler but that’s not always possible. I have some from Shea Moisture, Design Essentials, and Eden Body Works in my cabinet right now. I’ve also used a little bit of my Tressemme as a leave-in. Some naturals advise against this but it works for me.

6. Oil – A light coat of oil helps keep my hair from crunching when I use gel. I usually use a thick oil like olive or JBCO. Sometimes, I stop here when my curls are defined enough or I want a lot of volume. If I want well-defined, tight curls, I need a styler.

7. Styler – This is where the magic happens. This is how I keep the definition that hair has when it’s wet. I use gel. My favorites are Kinky Curly Curling Custard, Design Essentials Natural Honey, and Eco-styler Olive. I’ve tried other Eco-stylers (pudding and the clear), Shea Moisture’s Curling Gel Souffle, Camille Rose Curl Maker, Miss Jessie’s, Carol’s Daughter and DevaCurl but they didn’t give me the same pop as the first three I mentioned. I’m on the fence about aloe vera gel. It works well with the Eco and KCCC but only so-so when I use it alone. Next I’m going to see how my stylers (all of them) work when mixed with olive oil. I’ll let you know. I apply the gel while my hair is still wet. I mist it with my water bottle if it gets damp. The wetter the hair the more defined the curl pattern will be.


8. Oil – I carefully seal with oils again. Jojoba, cocoa butter oil, and JBCO work well. I take care not to alter the curl pattern. Next, I let it air dry, diffuse it, or sit under the dryer. If there is a cast, I get rid of it by scrunching my curls and gently applying some sort of moisturizer.

9. Moisturizers – I mostly use my leave-in conditioners to moisturize my hair. I put a little on my index finger and slid it between my thumb from root to end. I may use a moisturizer like Design Essentials Daily Moisturizing Lotion too. I usually moisturize my hair in the morning and at night. I’ll refresh my curls by spritzing it with water and using a cream to retain the moisture. I like SM’s Curl Enhancing Smoothie, Deva Curl’s Curling Cream, and Eden Bodyworks Curl Defining Cream. I use the creams to refresh because they don’t define my hair well. They don’t combine well with my gels either.

10. Bonnet – I sleep in a silk or satin bonnet. I use a scarf for some styles. This is because materials like cotton will suck the moisture right out of your hair. It will leave it dry, brittle and damaged. Trust me I know. That’s how I got this routine.


So what’s your routine? What products work best for you? I’d love to hear from you.

Posted by DaLoveLee1

I recently realized I have a passion for natural hair during on my journey toward self-acceptance and love. So much of who I am has always revolves around my hair. It reflects how I feel about myself internally. When I am depressed or stressed, I don't do my hair. If I do look like a million bucks, I feel like a million bucks, even if I'm flat broke. I started documenting my transition on Facebook and it spread to Instagram. I have been amazed at how I have come to love my kinks and curls. I didn't even know how to care for it when a started transitioning. It has been so liberating. I assumed the name LoveLEE around the same time as my transition because I needed to remind myself that I'm worthy of love. The image of women like me is skewed by the media and negative stereotypes. I refuse to confine since of love and beauty to society's standards. I'm starting this blog so other women will know that they don't have to be boxed in either. You are beautiful and flawless just the way you are.

Thanks for joining me.

30 thoughts on “My hair regimen”

  1. Great tip! My hair was still oily in the morning but it did not feel stiff and it looks nice, so I skipped an extra wash phew…Actually is very soft I won’t deliberately over oil it again for styling though 🙂

  2. So already tried the balea coconut and peach hair milk and was actually quite good. The only thing is I got product junkitis and also tried a wild argan oil by the body shop to seal and i liked it so much that I over oiled lol XD has that ever happened to you? How do you handle it? I dont want to wash my hair tomorrow but I have no idea how im going to wake up with this excess oil oops.

  3. This post is great! I’m still in the process of creating my routine, although I did find a line of products that if I use everything from the shampoo to the deep conditioner & leave in I know my hair will be cooperative (Macadamia hair, the down side is the price). Still I would like to get creative and find cheaper alternatives than salon products. Currently I love alternating coconut oil for prewashing with either an experimental mixture or Aussie moist conditioner prior to to shampooing and etcs… Same as for you, for me curl pattern (3-4a) was a relatively useless information; it wasn’t until I found out I had low porosity hair that I was able to pick products better. Now I’m search for drugstore products that work as well as my staple brand.

    1. Thank you for reading it and taking time to comment. I love to learn from other Curlies. I’ve been experimenting with As I Am lately. I wanna try Uncle Funky’s Daughter but it’s not in my area. I gotta use up some of my stash before I order anything online. I found a local lady who makes oils that has an oil I’ve been using to seal. I’m in love with it. I’m still pre-pooing with the coconut oil though.

      1. Thanks for your quick response, how nice ❤️
        Yeah I also wait until I use up my products to order new things. I just ran out of Macadamia conditioner hence is a good time to try other brands. Another brand I have been using is Aussie I like it since I get good results and is very cheap and now finally available in the drugstore. The thing is in Germany there are lots of cheap drugstore house products that while they are not “natural hair” targeted (since Afro hair is not common here) they seem like they would work regardless, the ingredients are not so different. One thing I have noticed is that I don’t have problems with cationic surfactants as long as I deep condition afterwards, I do alternate between soft cleansing shampoo with milder cationic surfactants and the stronger full sulfate shampoo. Up to the conditioning I can say I mostly control my routine (ish) the thing is the styling products there are so many different options XD, even with similar ingredients.

      2. I’ve had a good experience with Aussie. It’s been years since I tried it. There’s so many things to try. I’ve only been natural 5 years so I’m still learning how it responds to different things. I can see how products in Germany can limited. You’re right about the ingredients working the same though. Curly hair problems are Curly hair problems.

      3. Yup, actually I “transitioned” by accident while living in Japan; without really knowing the terms “transition” or “big chop” etc or what the natural movement was about (still learning) and had no idea or access to natural hair products. I used Japanese brands that clearly were not aimed at curly hair since they have straight hair, so I did not care much for brands as for ingredients back then.

      4. Clicked post before I was done. Things are much better in Germany than in Asia in terms of curly hair products because they exist period, great improvement. I just stumbled upon macadamia hair which is not a specifically natural hair line at least is not a favorite and it worked for me for so long so I stayed with it. Now that I’m blogging and reading blogs is that I have noticed all the things out there and I’m curious.

  4. I like your post about you hair regimen. I’ve been natural for almost 4 years now and the products that I like best are Aunt Jackies. These are great. They provide lots of moisture and the detangler is awesome.

    1. I do the hot oil treatment before I deep condition. I rinse it out too. Yes, this is only wash day, which is about twice a month. I co-wash as needed to get rid of product build up. I tend to use a lot. 🙈😏💁

      1. Awesome. I will be checking out yours as well, thanks for the support.

        Another question, do you use quite a bit of eco gel? I’m only using a tiny amount and on occasion. Not when my hair is super wet. Do you think this is important for curls to pop?

      2. I used to use a lot but it’s so thick. I shingle it now and use a lot less. I spritz it with water too. I only use it as need it because the cast is thick. It’s hard to break so my hair becomes stiff and hard. I HATE that so I try too mix it with some oils. I can’t remember which ones work best.

  5. Love your hair journey. It’s funny how as a child I always wanted a jerry Curl. I never knew that my hair without chemicals is so beautiful and curly in its own. I love my natural hair, it can be challenging at times I tell ya 🙂. I started my natural hair journey about 5 years ago. I believe I am a 4c, but my hair texture is different all around my head. I love my grade of hair people often ask me if I’m mixed. I love all stories about hair I often spend hours on YouTube checking out all the cutest styles and products. My go to leave in conditioner is Cantu Shea Moisture. I also use Eco Style gel Olive. Most times these are the only two products I use. I get lots of free stuff for my hair so my closet is full of stuff. LoveLee1 keep doing what you do I will always support ya girl. #naturalsistersrock

  6. I like YOUR hair MY hair regime shampoo in. Than conditioner IN THAN put my hair mayonnaise OIL Olive argon OIL I have to buy some more hair products I don’t have everything I need for MY hair but that okay I use what I have

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